Hubby and I went to see a friend who was gravely ill in the hosp and after they moved friend to the Hospice wing. Time constraints and other responsibilities prevented us from visiting one more time, then it was too late.
Why do we always think we have one more day?
Hubby has taken the loss of his friend hard.
I'm at a loss to be able to console Hubby because his delusions have kept him angry at me.
Why would he want the comfort of someone that keeps him 'trapped' and 'steals from him'?
So I look at him sympathetically and speak soft and kind words.
It's the best I can do.
The visitation and funeral have been a lot for Hubby to process.
Tonight he is very very confused of day and time.
As I brought Hubby his supper he asked what day is was.
He repeated my "Saturday" response with a questioning tone.
I confirmed he was correct, it is Saturday.
He wanted to know why it was Saturday.
It just is, was the only answer I gave.
When I set his plate down, he couldn't understand why we were eating.
I explained it was time for supper but was having a difficult time getting him to understand what supper was.
Eventually he clicked and ate his supper
It breaks my heart that Hubby feels confused sad and alone.
I am in hopes that he will follow through on the advise of his social worker and attend the Sr Center and participate with others. Our plans to do this have failed twice. The most recent time, Hubby woke, ate breakfast, conversed with me and I gathered his shirts for transport to the cleaners. Hubby likes his shirts starched at the cleaners. He dressed and laid down and wouldn't wake up in time for us to leave.
Oh well, better luck next time.
If at first you don't succeed...